hello all! hope you have a great Tuesday! i have a little bit of an issue and i know you all can provide some thoughts to it. so what do you think of the word "DITTO"? it was cute in the movie Ghost, but as a way to respond to something sweet that was said...i do not like it. i want a genuine response back not "DITTO". personally i hate that word, it seems like you really do not mean it. what does "DITTO" mean anyway? so here is why i am upset about the word...i was texting with my love and i was all about being sweet to him as always. well, i said to him: "thank you for sticking by and with me, i appreciate that a lot" and his reply was..."DITTO" ugh, i was SOO mad! then i said "i love you, chat with you soon after the game" again i got...you guessed it... "DITTO". ugh. see why that word and i are not friends!! i feel like i derserved more than "ditto" in response.
i could also be taking things very personally right now as i have had a lot going on and a lot of stress as well as we have been back and forth with arguments and knit picking back and forth for a while, so i guess I AM just on the edge with the whole thing and wondering where it is all going from here. i want it to work, but not too sure what to do other than keep to myself and quiet until he comes around b/c i have no energy to fight anymore....that is my goal!
i have also linked up with the Marriage and Relationship Goals link up!
~eloquently rambling...
i could also be taking things very personally right now as i have had a lot going on and a lot of stress as well as we have been back and forth with arguments and knit picking back and forth for a while, so i guess I AM just on the edge with the whole thing and wondering where it is all going from here. i want it to work, but not too sure what to do other than keep to myself and quiet until he comes around b/c i have no energy to fight anymore....that is my goal!
i have also linked up with the Marriage and Relationship Goals link up!
~eloquently rambling...
Unlike women men don't feel the need to express themselves, their thoughts and their feelings in the same manner we do and as much as we do despite us wanting to hear it. Sometimes when they are busy or detached they may not respond the way we want them to. It can be frustrating and like talking to a brick wall sometimes. If I was expressing my love and got a ditto I would be a bit pissed as well, its a good thing my husband never dittos me lol. I doubt he thought it was a big deal and I bet he didn't understand that it would upset you so much, sometimes men don't mean to be malicious they are just honestly clueless. Try not to let it stress you out as you already have things to deal with.
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Erica, good points! i am glad your hubby does not "ditto" you either. i have told him once before that i do not like the word, but never again as it may start something. he has been under stress a lot too. maybe i should just let him come to me with his words of love when he is de-stressed. i just do not know how long i have to wait.
DeleteOh man, that would frustrate me too! Maybe you could tell him that you'd rather have him say nothing, or even a quick "I love you" would make you feel a lot better than "ditto" ? Usually being gently honest is a good idea.
ReplyDeletehey Rachel, i am being as honest as i can with him. it is now up to him to except it. i have told him more than once. in one ear out the other. i guess when he is stressed out he does it. maybe i should start doing it back!
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