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~thinking, but still eloquently rambling....
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
How much is too Much?
i had another post in mind, but due to happenings, i need some advice on this: how much help (be it financial or materials or kindness of heart etc.) is too much? does it matter if it is family or non-family but close to you/your love? how much is too much. i ask b/c at times I feel used; it is becoming a habit I feel. you and the person asking for help both work, yet somehow you are able to take care of your needs and then even help them with theirs and you both probably make the same amount or that other person who needs your helps makes more than you!!! how do you do it? do you do it? what is the cut off number of asking times? if you do not help, do you feel bad, guilty, come off as you do not love/care for that person? this is hard, i go back and forth with it at times. i help because i can and i have a big heart, and i do love and care about the person. i believe that if the tables were turned, the person would help me, but i do get that little voice of doubt in my head of would they really help you as much as you have helped them if at all? what is your take on this all?
~thinking, but still eloquently rambling....
~thinking, but still eloquently rambling....
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I feel the same way sometimes. My husband always tells me that I do so much for my friends but they never reciprocate. I had to learn to say no every now and then.
ReplyDeletesame here. it is just hard. no one wants to feel like they are disliked. but enough is enough. i am not a bank...i am not insured by FDIC.
DeleteWhen you feel like you have to question the situation then that's when you know enough is enough. Some people that we love and care about can still try to use that against us and take advantage of us. I hope everything works out for you.
ReplyDeleteyou are SO right! sad that this has to happen. i am sure it will work out. i did have to put my foot down. i do not have that kind of funding.
DeleteI have two takes on this. The first is you are so blessed to have more than you need and it's great you are able to share. My second take is sometimes you have to cut people off to help them grow. It's not easy, I've got some experience in this, but sometimes it's necessary to allow them to become the person they are meant to be (without a crutch).
ReplyDeleteFawn, I agree. I have to remember my blessing and help others out too as one will continued to be blessed. but you can only help so much. i am learning not to be a crutch, it is hard when you love them though. also, how/can we comment on your blog posts? thanks!
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