i had another post in mind, but due to happenings, i need some advice on this: how much help (be it financial or materials or kindness of heart etc.) is too much? does it matter if it is family or non-family but close to you/your love? how much is too much. i ask b/c at times I feel used; it is becoming a habit I feel. you and the person asking for help both work, yet somehow you are able to take care of your needs and then even help them with theirs and you both probably make the same amount or that other person who needs your helps makes more than you!!! how do you do it? do you do it? what is the cut off number of asking times? if you do not help, do you feel bad, guilty, come off as you do not love/care for that person? this is hard, i go back and forth with it at times. i help because i can and i have a big heart, and i do love and care about the person. i believe that if the tables were turned, the person would help me, but i do get that little voice of doubt in my head of would they really help you as much as you have helped them if at all? what is your take on this all?
no, this is not me :) (random thinking person off google.com)